Your location at 5:42am? Yeah, that’s private 🤫
If you’ve ever been at a queer afterparty and someone whispers the address instead of saying it out loud, congrats — you’ve already lived the deepest truth of queer nightlife: privacy isn’t a feature. It’s a cultural instinct. It always has been.
🌙 Privacy has always been part of the queer night out
We’ve been doing it forever. Queer nightlife grew up in hidden basements, back rooms, and borrowed flats where the rule was simple: the right people knew, and that was enough. Before anyone talked about “LGBTQ+ privacy online” or “queer safety apps”, we already had a system: tell your mates, tell your mates’ mates, don’t tell that one guy who gives weird vibes. Simple. Effective. Slightly chaotic.
🗝️ Queer privacy isn’t about hiding - it’s about choosing
Not everyone is out-out. Some people have tricky families, messy jobs, or just don’t want their weekend choices plastered on social media feeds. And that’s fine. Queer privacy is not about pretending it all never happened - it’s about choosing who you trust with the after-hours you.
And let’s be real: half the reason you have to choose who comes to the afters is because friends invite friends, those friends invite their friends, and suddenly your tiny flat is hosting half of East London. Not everyone fits - literally or vibe-wise.
When we started building aftrs, we didn’t go for the usual social app stuff — big public feeds, everyone seeing everything, “oh god why is my boss here” energy. No thanks. We wanted something that actually feels like queer nightlife: low-key, intentional, shared with the right people.
📱 The privacy features behind aftrs
aftrs keeps things cosy:
• No public feed (your night is not content)
• You choose who sees your online status
• ‘Inner circle’ controls allow you to specify what information you share with which of your friends - sometimes you don’t want to be “found by all your friends” - just the ones who party like you do.
🫂 Queer safety is about trust, not surveillance
Queer spaces feel best when the room is full of people who get it. When you can be soft, loud, weird, sexy, quiet, camp, confused - whatever version of you rolls in after the club.
aftrs is basically the digital version of your friend leaning in and going: “Don’t worry, babe! It’s just us here.”
And if you’re in your “I should probably tighten up my online safety” era, GLAAD has a brilliant digital safety guide for queer folks.
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